Co-parenting only works when all parties are involved. I look at other coparent relationships and I see how simple things can be when both parties are in agreement about how to share responsibilities and raise their child(ren). I feel in order to be successful with this both parents must communicate, identify responsibilities and be respectful.
1. Communicate. I can not stress how important it is to communicate to each other. Plans change, things happen and it is important to tell those changes to the other parent. It’s annoying when you have plans and the other person changes their plans and they do not communicate that to the other parent. It is very stressful to rearrange plans at the last minute. As the favorite phrase goes, “communication is key”.
2. Identify responsibilities. Their are some single parents that are responsible for all of their child(ren) needs and care. But, if you are coparenting it’s good to identify the responsibilities you will take on as the parent. Whether it’s taking on insurance, education, or clothing costs. It’s clear to have an understanding of what responsibility you both should take on.
3. Lastly, it is important to make sure that you are being respectful. Being Respectful of the other parent is so important, how your child(ren) see how you act can trickle down to their emotions and behavior. Even if you do not like or care for the other parent, keep that energy to yourself and don’t display any negativity.
This is based off my own personal experiences and what is my preference. Co-parenting for me is still fairly new —I continue to learn and understand how myself and my ex react to certain situations.
If you are currently co-parenting what has worked best for you? What are some tips that you would like to share?